Reconciliation with Su Yan is the biggest lie of the whole network.
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It is hard to say that the starting point of this topic is not good.
Just like the literal meaning, I hope everyone can accept their original appearance without makeup and accept their imperfections.
But this original positive topic gradually deviated during the fermentation process.
Because of the rising popularity of the topic, many people joined Su Yan’s army and posted videos of their reconciliation with Su Yan on various platforms. If many people really let their guard down at the beginning and face their Su Yan directly, then with the subsequent development, this topic has become a training ground for handsome guys and beautiful women.
In a hot video discussing the later stage of fermentation, a very beautiful girl told the camera about her imperfections in Su Yan, and finally shed tears and announced that she had reconciled with Su Yan.
The anxiety of netizens’ appearance, which was gradually arched, reached its peak, and public opinion began to bite back.
"I am more anxious after reading it."
"In the end, all the beautiful women are reconciled. If there is no reconciliation, there is still no reconciliation."
"I don’t reconcile, I want to appeal."
01.
A plain photo,
Can we make a settlement?
Reconciliation with Su Yan was originally intended to accept oneself and respect aesthetic differences. Like many topics on social media, it went astray after the heat fermentation.
The so-called plain state in the video is like this: big eyes, high nose, smooth outline lines, smooth and flawless skin, curled eyelashes with distinct roots, lips without lip lines and full of blood and so on.
On the one hand, anxious netizens have psychologically magnified their shortcomings in this beauty contest, saying that they are even more unable to reconcile with their own beauty.
On the other hand, we found that behind these so-called Su Yan bloggers are exquisite nude makeup, exquisite concealer and accurate angle polishing. Su Yan is just a well-planned lie, and behind it is still the Versailles traffic competition that is subordinate to the mainstream aesthetics.
If these plain photos expressing attitude are the illusion created after makeup, filters and retouching, can you really reconcile with yourself with this plain photo?
Not really.
"The more you lack, the more you care."
This lie about the reconciliation between beauty and imperfection is like a reflection of people’s pursuit of perfection.
Many aesthetic rules that have been attached to appearance have not been completely removed because of the return to plain appearance, but have become another standard, which has further suppressed the appearance of the public.
The only thing it can prove is exactly how much we care about whether we are plain or not.
So, what about reconciliation?
02.
The more reconciled,
The more anxious you are.
First of all, let alone the cheating methods such as nude makeup, retouching and filters. From the perspective of ordinary people, it is not convincing for a group of good-looking people to initiate and talk about this topic.
Not only under the topic of "reconciliation with Su Yan", similar wording can appear from time to time on the marketing topics of many high-profile public figures.
Artists and amateurs, not to mention whether the photos under those topics are really plain, are at least not on the same starting line.
However, because the audience understands the difference in face value between artists and ordinary people, the topic similar to plain face will not cause any substantial public opinion changes.
When the subject changes from a star to a online celebrity blogger who is closer to everyone’s life, the situation will get very bad.
The facial features, which are already in line with the mainstream aesthetics, and then labeled as plain face, will turn the dialogue with the true self into an alternative beauty comparison, all of which are very lacking in empathy.
The derivative effect of "reconciliation with plain face" is similar to "effective makeup", which seems to oppose mainstream aesthetics, but in fact, it is to re-establish a stricter rule through "fake action", and the right to speak these rules has never been in the hands of the general public.
In this case, talking about reconciliation will naturally make some netizens who don’t understand the fake ingredients behind them feel strong peer pressure.
Peer pressure often leads people to change their attitudes, behaviors and even some submissive behaviors. These carefully calculated "plain faces", the more reconciled, the more they create and deepen others’ appearance anxiety.
Ada once had an impressive scene of live makeup removal in the movie The Beneficiary.
In the film, Yue Miao, who she plays, is a network anchor. She always shows people with exaggerated modeling and rich makeup, just to cover up the fact that she is 38 years old, so that she can get closer to what the public likes to see and forget her real life and face over time.
There is a paragraph in the film in which she takes off her heavy makeup in front of the camera and confesses her truest side to the audience and faces her true self.
This is the attitude that "reconciliation with Su Yan" should have. In fact, the development of this topic violates the original intention of advocating aesthetic pluralism and becomes another self-examination of rigid mainstream aesthetics.
This kind of "reconciliation" is not only insincere, but also very arrogant.
03.
Give up reconciliation,
Is the real reconciliation.
In fact, the key point of reconciliation never lies in whether it is plain or not, but in its subject "self"-
Can we accept our own truth and imperfection?
You can choose light makeup, heavy makeup, or plain face, as long as you sincerely want to. Whether you are plain or not, you should serve yourself.
In 2015, YOUTUBE beauty blogger My Pale Skin released a video called "YOU LOOK DISGUSTING".
Show yourself from the self-confidence of plain face to the praise after makeup, but still suffering inside, and then calmly remove all makeup and return to calm, so as to encourage everyone to accept their imperfections and feel beautiful from the heart.
At the same time, another beauty blogger, Nikkie Tutorials, also shared an article called "The Power of MAKEUP!" The video shows the audience the charm of makeup and shares the dazzling and moving process from an ordinary person to makeup, in order to oppose the "makeup humiliation" that was gradually taking shape at that time.
These two different angles are nothing more than saying that we should face up to our innermost needs.
If you don’t want to put on makeup, then keep your face plain, so you don’t have to feel inferior, and gain confidence with your inner consistency. If you want to change yourself through make-up, then make-up, and it is understandable to use it as a means to enhance your self-confidence.
Don’t be trapped by the so-called standards, and don’t be easily influenced. Evaluate or even criticize the looks of others. Everyone has the right to choose their own beauty or not.
In society, people are often bound by the standards in the eyes of "everyone" and pushed away.
But very often, it is precisely by properly ignoring them that a real reconciliation can be achieved.
On the other hand, if we still feel anxious, shy and cringe at not meeting the standards of beauty in others’ eyes-
We can never make peace with ourselves.
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