Experts remind： Parents should infect their children with a normal heart and take the exam calmly.
In order to help the college entrance examination students take the exam, mothers try their best to create a preparation environment for their children under the role of "love". But their good intentions did not get a positive response from the children.
In the past two days, our reporter has investigated this.
Mom "worries too much" about all beings.
"Careful" Mom-Remind neighbors to walk softly
In the past two days, 18 households in a dormitory building in Fruit Lake, Wuchang, under the reminder of "careful" mother’s "exam-helping slogan", went up and down the stairs very lightly.
Xiaoxin is a student of a key high school in Wuchang, who lives on the sixth floor. In the days before the exam, the school holiday was adjusted, and Xiaoxin was at home to prepare for the exam. Strangely, the neighbors who have always been noisy downstairs suddenly became very quiet, and the whole building was "silent".
At noon, Xiaoxin went downstairs and found that in the aisle from the first floor to the sixth floor, the sign "There are candidates at home, so take your steps lightly" was affixed. Xiaoxin, who has always been immune to the noise made unintentionally by her neighbors, is not used to it. Xiaoxin’s mother admitted that it took her all night to write and paste the logo.
"I don’t know what others will think of me. In fact, I am disgusted that they are so nervous. Everyone in the whole building knows that I am taking the college entrance examination. If I don’t do well in the exam, how can I have the face to see others? " Xiaoxin said that the whole building was quiet at once, but the effect of her review was not as good as before.
"Be careful" mom-sit outside the door for 4 hours every night.
In the past two weeks, Xiao Wei, a careful candidate, found that after dinner, his parents, who have always been inactive, suddenly had the habit of going out for a walk. Sitting in the community for 4 hours every night, waiting for him to rest before going home.
Xiao Wei, a senior in Yucai High School, told reporters that when she came home these two weeks, her mother had already cooked the meal early, put on disposable chopsticks, threw them away after eating, and immediately went out for a walk with her father. After a long time, Xiaowei found that after the lights in his room went out for about 10 minutes every day, his parents went home on time, and then crept to wash and rest.
"Thinking that my parents are waiting outside the door, I can’t stand reading, so I pretend to spread the book and turn off the lights early." Xiaowei said helplessly.
In this regard, Xiaowei’s parents said that in fact, the use of disposable bowls and chopsticks is also to save the time for washing dishes for children to review, and the time for going out is not easy to pass. Almost all of them sit on the stone bench in the community for 4 hours, and the seconds are like years. "Look at the lights at home, it is estimated that my son will go home safely after sleeping."
"Sincere" Mother-Forcing Her Son to Wear "Victory Socks"
If you do well in the exam, the clothes you wear at that time will also be stained with good luck? A mother is convinced of this. She secretly kept nearly 10 pairs of socks worn by her children during the exam, and prepared to use the "highest score" as her son’s college entrance examination equipment.
Xiao Jiang is a fresh graduate of an ordinary high school in Wuchang. After a thorough examination last semester, Xiao Jiang put dirty clothes into the washing machine for the first time after taking a shower. Unexpectedly, his mother who was preparing honey soy milk rushed over and took out all the clothes. Xiao Jiang observed that no matter whether it was an exam or a quiz, there would never be his own socks on the clothes rack that day.
A few days ago, Xiao Jiang actually found some pairs of dirty socks in the cupboard at home. Mom said, according to my hometown, the clothes I wear when I get good grades in the exam will be stained with good colors, and all the socks she left behind are worn when I get good grades in the exam. I’m sure I can do well in the college entrance examination by choosing the "best" pair.
Xiao Jiang was very dissatisfied with this, but his mother attracted six relatives to persuade him. For the sake of his parents’ painstaking efforts, he had to give in.
"painstaking" mother-unplug the phone and cut off "diplomacy"
Two months before the college entrance examination, my mother, who usually likes playing cards, suddenly stopped going out and hung a "war-free card" at the door of her house. Even the telephone line at home was unplugged. Xiao Hai’s mother suddenly cut off all contact with the outside world.
Xiaohai is a graduate of a key high school in Hankou. Her mother is recuperating at home. She usually likes to play cards and chat with her neighbors and has many friends. But two months before the exam, Xiao Hai’s mother, Ms. Zhang, suddenly "quit" mahjong and stayed at home all day to "serve" Xiao Hai.
To Xiaohai’s surprise, the phone at home has never rung in recent months. It turned out that Xiaohai’s mother refused all invitations from friends and unplugged the telephone line at home in order to reassure her son to review. "As long as the college entrance examination is not over, mom will stay with you in the house every day." Xiaohai’s mother has been encouraging her son like this.
The yard where Xiaohai’s family is located is not big. When her mother is "autistic", people in the whole yard will encourage Xiaohai a few words when they meet. "Every word of encouragement is a kind of pressure!" Xiaohai complained to reporters.
"Concentrate" Mom —— Quit her job and go home to study cooking skills.
Ms. Li worked as an accountant in a company, with a monthly income of 2,000 yuan, accounting for 2/3 of the family income. When her daughter said, "The food in the canteen is not to her liking", she immediately resigned and went home to become a "special chef" for her children.
My daughter Xiaoning is a senior three student in Wuhan No.6 Middle School, with excellent grades and independent personality. At the end of April, Ms. Li overheard Xiao Ning saying that she didn’t eat very well. After discussing with her husband, she resigned without hesitation and sent meals to school twice a day.
Ms. Li also bought a lot of recipes, studied at home every day, and began to prepare her daughter’s dinner after lunch every day. She never repeated a dish for a month.
Ms. Li admits that it is very difficult to find a better job at her age, but it is worth doing for her children’s future.
Experts say
Why does mother always "worry too much"?
The reporter’s investigation found that in all the families surveyed, mothers always seem to be more "over-worried" than fathers.
Wang Yifan, an expert from the Municipal Education Research Institute, said that relatively speaking, women are more likely to regard family as the core of their lives. In life, they pay more attention to it. When such an important event as the college entrance examination comes, compared with men, women’s psychological endurance is relatively weak, and mothers are more likely to show anxiety and impatience; Externalized in behavior, they are more likely to "care too much" about candidates.
Compared with the mother, the father’s emotional performance is more restrained and implicit. When such an important event as the college entrance examination comes, although they are also worried, it is more manifested in inner anxiety and rarely externalized.
Wang Yifan said that the college entrance examination is a very important event in a family, which will largely determine the future direction of children. Many families are facing such problems for the first time, so when the college entrance examination comes, parents are under great pressure. Under such pressure, parents tend to show anxiety and impatience, and then show this anxiety and impatience as "excessive concern" for their children, further infecting their emotions.
Mom’s preparation manual
Infect children with your composure.
Wang Yifan has also formulated a "preparation manual" for Jiangcheng’s mother, the core of which is to influence children with a calm attitude and help them to take the exam easily.
1. Plan your child’s life for a few days before the exam, take good care of your diet and daily life, and be sure of your daily life.
2. Keep the normal life at home. If parents can’t relieve their children’s pressure, it’s best not to break this balance. If they deliberately create a so-called quiet environment and special treatment, it may cause children’s discomfort and the effect is not good.
3. Don’t talk about "exams" frequently with candidates. The correct approach should be to neither deliberately avoid nor deliberately strengthen the topic of college entrance examination.
4. Help children prepare for the exam. Help children prepare their accustomed stationery and clothes according to regulations to strengthen the confidence of candidates.
5. The fluctuation of parents’ emotions will greatly affect children. Before the exam, parents should first adjust themselves and keep calm, so as to keep a relaxed and free atmosphere in family life, and try to infect their children with this emotion.
Editor: Huo Junxia